This has been bothering me for a while now- people judge on your deeps/heals, and not on your personality. This has always bugged me, but not until recently have I really been bothered by it.
The event that compacted the issue happened in a flex raid my guild was running. We, and some random others, were running the first wing and generally having a good time of it. Everyone was getting along, and there were many laughs to be had.
Important things to note however, were this. I was consistently the top DPS (this isn’t bragging (much :P) as it is important to the story) and my guild mates were generally in the middle of the pack.
We got to Norushen, and had our first wipe. I started to have extremely bad lag issues (3334 latency, woot!), so I had to restart WoW. Alright, no skin off our backs, we dusted off and tried again. And promptly wiped again. I had died halfway through, so I now was trying to restart my computer to fix the issue. This means I left the voice comm our guild was using too.
When my computer finally restarted, it was slow. I got back on the voice comm, and was shocked to hear what had happened. Apparently, the random others had turned against a few members of my guild, citing low dps as a reason to kick them. One member had gotten kicked, but another in our guild had invited them back to the raid. This was our flex raid after all.
Then, the randoms started slinging insults at various members of our guild. The person was kicked again, and this time, our entire group left the randoms. I was shocked at how quickly that escalated, and fully expected to log into WoW, having been kicked from the group.
But I wasn’t.
It turns out, that because of my high dps, the randoms had waited 15 minutes for me to come back online. I was astounded by their patience, and then immediately upset. Why couldn’t they have been that patient with my guildies?
And this is the issue. People value your DPS over your attitude, or willingness to learn. My guildies were friendly and nice (until they were attacked), but because they didn’t have the dps, they were given no patience. I was mostly silent, but had relatively high dps, so they waited a FULL FIFTEEN MINUTES for me to get back. Fifteen minutes! And yet they couldn’t do it for my guildies!
It angers me, the things that take priority in peoples minds. Yes dps is important, but just as much so as a positive attitude and a willingness to learn. People need to be WAY more patient with lesser geared people, especially if those people are putting their all.
I mean, which would you rather have? The sullen sour shaman who pulls 20% of the deeps, all while putting down the rest of the raid, or the helpful happy hunter, who many not have the best dps, but is doing the very best he can while being polite to others?
I know that if I hadn’t been a high dps, I would have been kicked too. No one would have given me tips on how to improve, I would have just been shunted. Because I would have been taking up their precious, precious time (/heavy sarcasm).
Patience is a virtue that I think everyone can work on.
If only once,
someone stepped up
and gave the man his pay.
He’ll gladly pay you Tuesday,
for a hamburger today.
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